Girls.

(this is an old note, but still very much me...)

I’m not one of those people who is very good at posting notes for multitudes of people to see, nor do i really enjoy putting myself out there- on facebook of all places- but this is something that i didn’t feel i should keep to myself.

I’m sure we’re all well aware that we are constantly comparing ourselves to other people, specifically other girls. as a result we feel inadequate- in just about everything. chances are that if you feel inadequate about one thing, insecurity will spread into other areas of your life as well.
we have dreams and desires. most if not all of us dream of getting married. most of us dream of having a family.
just so you know-
the type of man you should want is one who is wholeheartedly pursuing God.
if you’re looking for a man that is desperate for you and your attention and affection, you’re headed towards a relationship with no stability,
because you will fail him.
you will make mistakes, and as long as you are what is filling that emptiness within him, you better be perfect. (ex. 20:3- i’ve found that even people can become ‘gods’ to us.)
but- if you are looking for a man that loves you as a companion, a partner, a best friend but is desperate for God more than anything else, you’ve found a man who has an invincible strength through his own weakness. (2 cor. 12: 9-10)

something that i’m learning is this:
(not that i’ve totally accepted it yet- aren’t we all in process?)
i, you, we have absolutely no justifiable right to feel inadequate. (gal. 6:4, eph. 2:10, gen. 1:27)
how often do you (i) forget that you have been created in and are continuing to be recreated in the image of God? how often do we forget that we have a relationship with the one and only God, who has been, is and will be in control of all things for all of eternity? we fail to accept that....

back to the whole comparing thing, something that i feel God is so desperate to communicate to each one of us:
“YOU- insert your name (because you know he knows YOU by name and is constantly speaking to you)- were in my thoughts since before the creation of the world... YOU are unlike every other person who has ever existed...YOU think like no one else...YOU treat people the way no one else does...YOUR relationship with me is like no one else’s...your passions, likes, dislikes, don’t compare to any one else’s...I created you with a purpose and such a specific plan that you have no options but to watch and see what I desire to do in and through your life.

i was talking with a friend and we were processing through what ‘obedience’ means. she started telling me what she felt God calling her to, and she was describing to me how she was choosing to be obedient to that.
i started feeling guilty that i wasn’t out there doing the amazing things she was, but also fearing that God was going to call me to those types of things and that’s when he hit me with the truth of it:
my relationship with him is (and has to be) so separate, so individual, so unique to me and my circumstances, personality, and heart that i don’t have the right to try to compare for a moment the details of who he has made me to be with who he has made someone else to be.
yup, there are alot of amazing women out there- and God’s desire for you, when you see those women out there pursuing his heart, is to be challenged and encouraged, not inadequate, inferior, or jealous...

Isaiah 43: 4 Since you are precious and honored in my sight,
and because I love you,
I will give men in exchange for you,
and people in exchange for your life.

We have been blessed to be a blessing. I prayed before I posted this asking God if he wanted to encourage someone through it, and i know he does... so be encouraged. take his words to heart and walk in confidence. you are loved by the One whose love matters most...